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Sometimes
Sometimes, when the sun goes down, It seems it will never rise again… but it will!
Sometimes, when you feel alone, It seems your heart will break in two… but it won’t.
And sometimes, it seems it’s hardly worthwhile carrying on…
But it is.
For sometimes, when the sun goes down,
It seems it will never rise again,
But it does
Frank Brown
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Gentlemoments
Bereavement support

Forget Me Not
Forget me not, for I am there
In the beat of your heart,
On the wing of your prayer.
Forgive me my parting and leaving you thus,
A joyous reunion is waiting for us!
Continue to strive toward your goal and be brave.
Know that my love didn't stop at the grave.
My spirit is with you through good times and bad.
I share all the joys and the sorrows you've had.
Feel my presence within your next breath
And realize there's no distance in death.
Ask for my help and I'll answer your call.
Reach for my hand when you stumble and fall.
Run the last mile with a smile on your face.
My arms will be waiting when you finish the race.
Always remember, my love is right there
In the beat of your heart,
On the wing of your prayer.
~ Linda Shelburn Reagan~

Some Helpfull contacts below
Brakecare
caring for people affected by road crashes
www.brake.org.uk
Help line:01484 421611
The Samaritans on 0845 790 9090
The Samaritans is an counseling line, open 24 hours a day for anyone in need . It is staffed by trained volunteers who will listen sympathetically. you can also contact them by e-mailing jo@samaritans.org
Cruse- Bereavement care
Bereavement line
0845 758 55 65
The Talkshop
is a multi national web site that offers support to bereaved Families and Friends
www.thetalkshop.org
Compassionate Friends
www.tcf.org.uk
An organisation offering support and Friendship to bereaved parent and their families
Would you like to set up a web site in honour of your loved one here are two links for you to use.
www.memory-of.com
http://www.muchloved.com/app/g_home.aspx
Age Concern England
Tel: 0800 00 99 66
Age Concern Scotland
Tel: 0845 833 0200
Age Concern Cymru
Tel: 029 2037 1566
Age Concern Northern Ireland
Tel: 028 9024 5729
Age Concern is national network of groups providing services for older people. Some Age Concern groups offer bereavement counselling. Look in the telephone directory to find your local group, or ring your national office listed above.
Citizens Advice Bureau
Look in your telephone book to find your nearest Citizens Advice Bureau.
The Compassionate Friends
53 North Street
Bristol BS3 1EN
Helpline: 0845 123 2304
The Compassionate Friends is a nationwide self-help organisation. Parents who have been bereaved themselves offer friendship and support to other bereaved parents, grandparents, and their families.
Community Legal Service Direct
Helpline: 0845 345 4 345 (Mon to Fri, 9am to 5pm)
The Community Legal Service can give you advice on benefits, debt and legal aid.
Cruse Bereavement Care
Cruse House
126 Sheen Road
Richmond TW9 1UR
Helpline: 0870 167 1677
Cruse Bereavement Care offers free information, advice and support to bereaved people. Cruse runs a helpline, and can supply a wide range of books, leaflets and a newsletter for bereaved people.
Note: If you are calling from Northern Ireland, contact the Northern Ireland Regional Office on 028 90 792419.
National Association of Widows
3rd floor, 48 Queens Road
Coventry CV1 3EH
Tel: 0845 838 2261
The National Association of Widows offers support and information to women who have lost a husband or partner. Contact Head Office for details of local branches and advisory centres.
Natural Death Centre
6 Blackstock Mews
Blackstock Rd
London N4 2BT
Tel: 0871 288 2098
The Natural Death Centre offers advice on arranging a funeral with or without using a funeral director.
Probate and Inheritance Tax Helpline
Tel:0845 30 20 900 (Mon to Fri: 9am to 5pm)
Probate and Matrimonial Office (Northern Ireland)
Tel: 028 9072 4678
Samaritans
Tel: 08457 909090
Samaritans are ordinary people from all walks of life who offer a sympathetic listening ear to despairing and suicidal people of all ages. Lines are open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year; all calls are charged at the local rate.
Veterans Agency
Norcross
Blackpool FY5 3WP
Helpline: 0800 169 2277
Textphone: 0800 169 3458
The Veterans Agency can offer support and advice to war pensioners, war widows, their dependants and carers.
War Widows Association of Great Britain
c/o 48 Pall Mall
London SW1Y 5JY
Tel: 0870 2411 305
The War Widows Association gives advice, help and support to war widows and dependants.
Cruse Bereavement Care is the largest bereavement charity in the UK, with 150 local branches. It offers help to people bereaved by death, in any way, whatever their age, nationality or belief.
TCF is an organisation of bereaved parents and their families offering understanding, support and encouragement to others after the death of a child or children. TCF also offers support, advice and information to other relatives, friends and professionals who are helping the family.
An excellentresource for information on young people's bereavement services.
Aims to improve the care offered by professionals to grieving families in the immediate crisis and in the many months following the death of someone important in their lives.
Freephone telephone for all those affected by the death of a child.
The Trust has three main aims:- To raise funds for the research into the causes and, hopefully, the prevention of Cot Death. To improve and extend the support available to bereaved families. To educate the public and health care professionals about Cot Death.
A national self-help organisation. It has a network of over 200 groups and contacts. All people involved in the network are volunteers and their purpose is to befriend and support bereaved parents and their families, who have suffered a stillbirth or neonatal death.
Seeks to support those bereaved ofa partner while still young (together with their families). Coming from a Christian perspective, A Different Journey seeks to offer hope and support to those of all faiths and none. This is a section of the charity 'Care for the Family'.
Supports those parents who have lost a child (including adult children), together with any siblings. This is a section of the charity 'Care for the Family'.
Website with pages that have been collated to provide information and support online for bereaved parents whose baby has died during pregnancy, at birth or shortly afterwards.
A group for parents misfortunate enough to have suffered the loss of their baby through late miscarriage, late termination due to a problematic pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal death or death of a baby in their first year.
A charity which offers help, support and counselling to families where there has been a sudden cardiac death of an apparently fit and healthy young person (Sudden Death Syndrome). Has expert medical information about heart conditions provided by doctors.
Offers a wealth of information to peopleexperiencing bereavement, planning for their future, or people who wouldsimply like to find out more about the bereavement process. Information covers topics such as funeral etiquette, cremation, what to do when someone dies, grief, and 8 other titles. The sitealso has a Dignity Funeral Director finder and a range of information onarranging a funeral, funeral planning and memorials etc.
Help for People Bereaved Through Epilepsy
An organisation offering support, information, advice, and advocacy to those families who have lost a loved one as a result of murder.
A Family Bereavement Counselling Centre offering support to:
- anyone affected by the death of a child at any age and from any cause.
- any school age child/young person affected by the death of a parent/carer, grandparent, sibling or other significant adult.
Represents bereaved parents who have lost youngsters in road accidents. Lobbies for common-sense measures to make learning to drive a safer process and save other families from losing a beloved son or daughter.
Information about grief and bereavement, lists of services for bereaved people in London and the UK, links to Internet resources worldwide on the subject of bereavement and related issues plus special resources on the themes of race and culture and attachment.
Offer Freephone Helplines every evening of the year between 6 pm and 10 pm to give 'A sympathetic Listening Ear' to those suffering the pain of a bereavement.
A voluntary organisation committed to the prevention of young suicide and the promotion of mental health and well-being. Aims include: to promote public awareness of the risk of mental or emotional distress during adolescence and young adulthood, and to help to remove the stigma of such occurrences; to provide useful information for the parents of suicidal young people; and where a suicide has already occurred, to encourage the provision of appropriate support, either voluntary or professional, for those closely and traumatically affected.
Provides practical and emotional help to those newly bereaved and injured as a result of a road crash.
A registered Charity dedicated to the care of the terminally ill, companionship of the dying, and support and counsel for the bereaved. They work towards the best possible mental, emotional and spiritual back-up and care for everyone involved when death and dying are near.
Information for the family and relatives of a young person who has died of Sudden Arrhythmic Death Syndrome - SADS sometimes called sudden adult death syndrome
Understanding and support to families and friends, who have been bereaved as a result of murder and manslaughter. See also SAMM South East (The Gatwick Group)
An organisation to help relatives and close friends of people who die suddenly.
Provides a self-help social and support network for men and women widowed under the age of 50, and their children.
Helps bereaved children and young people rebuild their lives after a family death. We offer practical support and guidance to families, to professionals and to anyone concerned about a grieving child..
Web site to create awareness of funerals and how the industry works, general advice, help contacts, directory of funeral directors and monumental masons.
Please find below a list of links I would like to share with you these links are of a spiritual nature..
http://www.hayhouseradio.com/
This is a link to a mind body and spirit radio station
http://www.mediumysticss.com/ this is a spiritual site it is a free site
http://www.whisperingsouls.ca/ WhisperingSouls Psychic Chat and Discussion Site ,Also a Free site
Please if you have any suggestions for contacts or links please join our forum and let us know if you have found they have helped you then maybe they will help some one else please share. Please remember this forum is for bereaved people thank you.
Kind Regards
Admin



We hope you will be able to find some help and support from other members here when you most need it.
This site has been set up by people who have lost a loved one or loved ones, we are not councillors or members of the medical profession , we are just normal everyday people who are struggling with our own grief and feel that there is a need for places like this to come and talk with people who are going through the same emotions and need to talk a place to escape too, talk about our loved ones, share your day, how you feel , just being able to talk freely and not worry . There are some topics and modules set up to try to help take your mind of things with some of the topics and the free games if you so wish. The main thing is to know there are people out there that do understand and will listen and offer support . Please dont think you are on your own , we know it feels like that most of the time but if you take the first step and join our Forum you will see that there are others like you, maybe over time you will make new friends. Maybe you will be able to help the next person who joins and in turn they maybe able to help you .
We have many topics that we hope will be of some use and we are very open to your suggestions. This site is for you to find help & give help if you so wish we all walk the same road. Please remember we dont judge each other, just be there to offer support when we all need it

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The Rose Beyond the Wall
A rose once grew where all could see,
sheltered beside a garden wall,
And, as the days passed swiftly by,
It spread its branches, straight and tall ...
One day, a beam of light shone through
a crevice that had opened wide ~
The rose bent gently toward its warmth
then passed beyond to the other side ...
Now, you who deeply feel its loss,
be comforted ~ the rose blooms there ~
Its beauty even greater now,
nurtured by God's own loving care.
Thinking Of YOU!
When I open my eyes
to see the sun rise
I think of you.
When I hear a robin sing
on the first day of spring
I think of you.
When I see a red rose
on the bush where it grows
I think of you.
When I feel the summer heat
on the sand beneath my feet
I think of you.
When I sit on a beach
another world just out of reach
I think of you.
When I see the colored leaves
fall to the ground from a light breeze
I think of you.
When I look to the night sky
and see the sparkle like in your eyes
I think of you.
When the snow is coming down
to softly blanket the ground
I think of you.
When I go to bed at night
as I turn out the light
I think of you.
~Rickrob~


My dearest loved one, here on earth,
I saw a tear fall down your face.
You didn’t see me standing there,
Nor could you feel my soft embrace.
But I was standing next to you,
I know you looked around.
You seemed to wonder what it was
You thought you heard a sound.
Yes my love, it was I,
Who came to check on you.
I saw a tear fall from your eye,
I knew you were feeling blue.
Even though you cannot see me.
Please know that I am near
I am now an angel from above
To brush away your tear.
I know each day you think of me
And many times shed a tear.
But please just close your eyes
And know that I am near.
As I have told you often,
Do not be afraid to cry.
It does relieve the pain
Knowing we had to say goodbye.
One thing is for certain,
Even though life on earth is o’er
I’m still closer to you now
Than ever I was before.
I know you still don’t understand
Why I had to leave this earth
God doesn’t have any secrets;
It’s just all planned from our birth.
Someday when you have joined me
And meet God at His Throne,
It’s then you will understand
The questions that have been unknown.

Author
Ruth Ann Mahaffey
©copyright 2007
Memories Keep Those We Love
Close To Us Forever
Although words seem to say so little,
I hope they help in some small way
to ease the sense of loss
that you’re experiencing today.
Hold fast to your memories
to all of the cherished moments
of the past,
to the blessings and the laughter,
the joys and the celebrations,
the sorrow and the tears.
They all add up to a treasure
of fond yesterdays
that you shared and spent together,
and they keep the one you loved
close to you in spirit and thought.
The special moments
and memories of your life
will never change.
They will always be in your heart
today and forever more.
Linda E Knight

I Believe
Every now and then, soft as breath upon my skin,
I feel you come back again,
And it’s like you haven’t been gone a moment from my side ~
Like the tears were never cried,
Like the hands of time are holding you and me,
And with all my heart I’m sure we’re closer than we ever were
I don’t have to hear or see you ~ I’ve got all the proof I need ~
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, oh I believe
Now when you die your life goes on ~
It doesn’t end here when you’re gone
It never ends, and if I’m right
Our love can even reach across eternity
I believe, oh I believe
Forever you’re a part of me
Forever in the heart of me
I would hold you even longer if I can
Oh the people who don’t see the most
Say that I believe in ghosts
If that makes me crazy, then I am
‘Cause I believe
Oh yes, I believe
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, oh I believe
Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again ~
And I believe.
– Performed by Diamond Rio
Listen to this song here http://www.ladyjayes.com/ibelieve-dr.html

The Gift of Someone Who Listens
author Nancy Myerholts
Those of us who have traveled a while
Along this path called grief,
Need to stop and remember that mile,
The first mile of no relief.
It wasn't the person with answers
Who told us the way to deal,
It wasn't the one who talked and talked
That helped us to start to heal.
Think of the friend who quietly sat
and held our hands in theirs,
The ones who let us talk and talk
and hugged away our tears.
We need to always remember
That more than words we speak,
It's the gift of someone who listens
That most of us desperately seek.

The Light Of Friendship
I've seen the light
And it's in you,
In everything you are
And in everything you do.
It's a perfect light
That shines for all to see.
It radiates from you
And has pierced the heart of me.
The light is from a friend.
It's a light that keeps me warm.
It lets me know how loved I am,
And keeps me safe from harm.
To you my friend I am thankful,
In each and every way.
For you lift my spirits up,
With every passing day.
To know that you are there for me,
It makes me feel alive.
Because it is your friendship's light,
Upon which my love thrives.
So thank you isn't good enough,
They are the only words I know.
It is your light of friendship,
That gives my world it's glow.
Thanks for sharing your light with me.
For it is the simple things in life that
Are truly unforgettable.

I wish for you
Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
Where there is self-doubting,
I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it.
Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion,
I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength.
Where there is fear, I wish you love, and courage.
This is a poem By three Members of gentlemoments
the members are
Pauls Dad :- verse 1
Treats :- verse 2
Vikki :- verse 3

A Rainbow
Their is no begining
and their is no end,
like life it is eternal.....
My love for you
the raindrops fall
but still i see
for you will always
be here with me.
Although we are not face to face
I sometimes feel your embrace
When I close my eyes that are full of tears
and see you stood there
You take away all my fears.
You are always in my thoughts,
You are always in my heart,
Everytime my eyes are closed,
I see your angelic face,
Your prescence is always known,
Your memories and my love for you, I embrace

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